When James was little his transition from place to place or activity to activity was HORRENDOUS. Full on tantrums in the street. His special preschool assigned him a one-on-one paraprofessional because they were worried about his behavior on their many stairs. So, we began using a little photo album. We had pictures of school, of his sensory gym, of all the objects and rooms in our apartment. We had a special section for the beach house and even a separate book for family and friends. It worked. James still complained, loudly and seemingly endlessly, but no longer attempted to slam his head into the concrete. I considered that a huge development. Soon James understood my words, regardless of an image (although the photos still exist for reinforcement). It was great! I LOVE having to explain something to my son! Again, he'd occasionally protest, but he'd accept his "fate." As time went by, James wanted to know more and my words had to grow. I introduced "First . . . then . . ." and even the bribe "If. . . then . . ." Very proud of myself, I was.
Fresh from vacation, James is on to a new phase. NO. Perhaps it was the influence of his toddler cousin who is obsessed with the word (so much so that his mom joked about changing his name) But I am not sure. James understands - what is next, where we are going or what we are doing - and beautifully gorgeously clearly shakes his head "NO." He makes a noise too but so far, it is unclear. What do I do? How do I deal with this? So far, it is: "Sorry James, I have to wash your hair." Oh the sobs! Yesterday at school, he protested so much that he drenched his shirt with tears and sweat. I know we can deal with this. I know it will all work out. Perhaps he is aware of the upcoming, month-long summer vacation where we shall concentrate on all things POTTY and is just preparing for the inevitable knock down brawl. Who the heck knows!
All I can say is: Awareness rules but it can sure be a bitch.
